Let’s be honest about that…without flinching or shame.
This is not the same as blame, this is an acknowledgement of fact.You didn’t say you’d commit for a year
You said for a lifetime
And it failed.That ache you feel? Is just distortion leaving the body.Fail simply means to not succeed.
It also means to cease to exist and function.
Without the acknowledgment of the failure of the marriage you are domed to recreate it in every future relationship because you’re still working on it
Bound to it.
Trying to fix it through every future marriage and relationship.
When you acknowledge that yes.
I contributed to that failure.
The intention held when we wed, we did not fulfill
The “we” we attempted does not exist
It Did not function.
This is a HUGE and important aspect to your beginning to open to new possibilities.
We don’t need to reframe it so that it wasn’t a failure. We need to create a love for the truth that can acknowledge failing without fear and condemnation.
We need to acknowledge what we didn’t know
So we can grow. And that makes all the difference.